This topic is very easy for me to write about. I’ve been alive for 21 years and I can honestly say that I have had my fair share of seasonal friends. Before I share my experiences with you, let’s talk about what a seasonal friend is.
A seasonal friend is someone who is only your friend for a specific time period. The end of the friendship is not necessarily the result of something negative like a falling out or relocation. It is the result of time. A seasonal friend is essential, remembered, and appreciated.
High school was amazing, although it did not start off that way. I went to Arabia Mountain High School (AMHS) the home of the rams. I had a choice to go to this school. Two weeks into the school year I came to the conclusion that I made the worst decision of my life. We were the only kids in our county who had to wear uniform and who received homework that kept us up until 4 a.m. Now do you see why I regretted attending this school? I was miserable. If the homework and the late nights were not enough, the fact that I had no friends at the time definitely was. For the first two weeks; I rode the bus in silence, ate lunch in silence, did my classwork in silence, and imagined what life would be like if I did not attend that school in silence. On week three, the girl who sat next to me on the bus every day, sparked up a conversation with me. During that conversation we realized that we had two classes together. We also discovered that we felt the same way about our school. We had so much in common. I think we were destined to become friends. That bus ride turned into 4 years of friendship. I don't think I would have been a graduate of AMHS if I did not meet her. I more than likely would have transferred to a different high school. That is why our friendship was essential.
Now that I am an adult, I reminisce about the “Good Ol’ Days.” I think about how easy it was to hang out with my friend...let’s call her Crystal. As I stated before, Crystal and I were not initially in love with our school. We did not know what school pride was, nor did we want to have it. When our parents met on one of our weekend hangouts… They came up with a brilliant idea. “Courtney and Crystal should start attending events after school. “Not wanting to upset our parents, we began to search for after school activities and event to attend. The first event that we attended was a basketball game, and guess what? We loved it! We people watched, picked out our future husbands, and enjoyed the game. I vividly remember that it was on that Friday evening that we gained school pride.
Crystal and I still talk from time to time. She went to a college miles away, pledged AKA, and will be graduating soon. I could not be happier for her. I am grateful that God placed her in my life during that season. We are still friends, but due to distance and time apart we are not as close as we use to be. According to the definition above, we would be considered seasonal friends.
My birthday is approaching soon and all I can do during the remainder of my 21 year old days is reflect. I think about how all the seasons in my life have molded me into the woman that I am today. I think about how God strategically placed people in my life so that I can learn, grow, detach, explore, love, dislike, invite, and more importantly, Leap.
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